This is really hard for me to admit but I’m going to go ahead and do so today. Why? Because I recently had a bad day that made me feel like a bad mom. And I know I’m not alone in this. You’ve been there, right? All of us moms – no matter the age and stage – struggle with feeling like a bad mom at times.
Here’s the confession I’m making. Because I know if I struggle with this, there are countless other moms struggling with the same thing. So, deep breath, here goes.
I yell at my kids sometimes. I don’t like it when I do and it never helps but I still find myself yelling.
I am a trained early childhood teacher, for goodness sakes! I taught Kindergarten and / or Preschool for 7 years. I know how to be calm. I know how to work with children at their development level. I know how to handle disobedience and temper tantrums. I am a generally calm person who is cheerful and positive. Little kids are my passion but my own? As much as I love them, they can still bring me to the point of yelling.
Some days, I find myself yelling after repeating for the 328th time to put on shoes now. Or I find myself yelling when Nathan looks at me defiantly and does exactly what I just told him not to do. Or it’s just been a long day and the reason for yelling doesn’t matter much but I still lose my patience and yell.
I don’t like yelling at my kids but I didn’t think I did it much until Nathan called me on it the other day. He was being a three year old boy and yelling, which was fine for a bit, until I asked him to stop. He kept yelling and yelling until I finally yelled, “Nathan! Stop yelling!” (Yes, I am fully aware of the irony of this moment.) My precious three year old stopped, and looked at me with his big, trusting eyes and said, “But Mom, you yell sometimes!”
And right there in that moment, my heart skipped a beat. I paused and quietly replied, “Yes, I do, Nathan. And I’m sorry about that. Mommy is going to work at not yelling as much. Will you forgive me?”
And he did and we moved on. But later that night, I started to do some soul-searching and prayed about this very thing. Because these days when I yell do feel like bad days, and bad days make me feel like a bad mom. It is these very moments that I am thankful for the grace and mercy of God who forgives me my many sins – including yelling at my children when there is no cause for the anger. I want to share this love, grace and mercy with my children.
You see, I don’t want to be a mom who yells because I’ve learned this simple fact. I know that the tone of our day is set by me as mom. If I’m stressed and yelling, the kids are going to act out in response. I know that but I needed some help in figuring out what to do.
Enter the wonderful Lisa-Jo Baker. I’ve long loved this honest, fellow Christian mom who writes about hard challenges of motherhood. Her amazing book, Surprised by Motherhood, is one of two books I think all moms need to read.
Well, Lisa-Jo has done it again. She developed a Temper Toolkit for Moms like me and you. It’s for the moms who yell on occasion and the moms who yell on a daily basis. It’s for all the moms who struggle with our temper. The Temper Toolkit was full of important truths like these.
Having a bad day doesn’t make me a bad mom.
It’s one thing to love our kids, it’s completely different thing to like them.
When we feel our blood pressure rising, moms need to stop, drop, and take a time out. We need to ask for help to make this happen and not feel guilty about it.
You were given each of your kids on purpose, for a specific purpose.
Being a mom is the hardest calling you will ever have.
The Temper Toolkit was one of the best investments I made in myself and our family. It’s a series of videos and transcripts with beautiful downloads to remind us how to be a better mom. Want to know more? The Temper Toolkit is only available for sale once or twice a year, but I know how you can get your hands on it this week!
Note: This post contains affiliate links but only of things I absolutely love and can fully recommend. You can read more in my disclosure policy.
Here’s the amazing thing. The Temper Toolkit is currently available as part of the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle. I don’t promote many things on my blog but this is one resource I want to share with you.
What is the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle? It’s an amazing collection of ebooks, courses and digital downloads to help you be a better homemaker.
Here’s the catch because with a deal this good, there is a catch. This bundle is only available from Wednesday, April 26 to Monday, May 1, 2017.
Oh! There are also 8 physical bonuses and 2 digital ones included in the bundle, for an additional $293.94 value.
Let me show you some of the books and courses I am most excited about in this bundle. I had the opportunity to buy this bundle the other week and have been loving all the real life encouragement I am receiving.
- The Temper Toolkit: How to Take Control of Your Temper Before You Lose it! by Lisa-Jo Baker ($29.00)
- Everyday Hope: Real Encouragement for Worn & Weary Moms by Kayse Pratt ($7.99)
- A Mom’s Guide to Better Photos: A Beginning Photography Class for Moms With Any Type of Camera by Meg Calton ($99.00)
- The Spaghetti Shots: How to Take Better Photos of Your Kids During Everyday Life by Courtney Westlake ($6.99)
- Matters of the Heart: a 52-Week Scripture Memorization Journey for Women by Carlie Kercheval ($10.00)
- The Glorious Ordinary: An Invitation to Study God’s Word in Your Everday by Sarah Frazer ($10.00)
- 31 Days to Radically Reduce Your Expenses: Less Stress, More Savings by Kalyn Brooke ($7.39)
- Real Life Money Plan: Designing a Money Plan to Fit Your Real Life by Jessi Fearon ($49.00)
- How to Be Frugal: A Guided 10 Unit Course That Will Teach You How to Be Frugal Online, In the Store, and In Your Home by Jennifer Roskamp ($99.00)
- How to Coupon Effectively: How to Save $5,200 Per Year in Just 2 Hours Per Week by Lauren Greutman ($9.99)
- Cozy Minimalist Decorating Class by Myquillyn Smith ($39.00)
In the Kitchen
- What’s 4 Dinner Challenge Meal Planning eCourse by Erin Odom and Holly Dvorak ($47.00)
- Bullet Journaling for Book Lovers by Anne Bogel ($15.00)
- Clutterfree with Kids: Change Your Thinking. Discover New Habits. Free Your Home. by Joshua Becker ($5.99)
- Adore Your Wardrobe 14-Day “From Frustrating to Functional” Closet Makeover by Kelly Snyder ($69.00)
- The SAHM Wardrobe Basics Builder by Alison Lumbatis ($29.00)
- Stretched Too Thin: 10 Days to Overcoming the Hustle and Thriving as a Working Mom by Jessica Turner ($39.00)
But I want you to be responsible with your finances. Go read through the list of all the products included in the bundle here. Make a note of the ones you’re most interested in. If those books and courses add up to more than $30, you can be confident you’re getting a good investment.
I did the same and realized these courses and books I wanted to read added up to way more than the $30. I – and my kids – have benefited already from the Temper Toolkit. All the other resources? Icing on the cake for this homemaker.
If you have any questions about the Temper Toolkit or Homemaking Bundle, ask in the comments! Otherwise, remember that it’s only available this week for purchase. You can see everything included in the 2017 Homemaking Bundle here. I hope you find it as encouraging as I did.
And moms? Remember this the next time you have a rough day. A bad day does not make you a bad mom.